I seem to have to choose between my dad and boyfriend...What do I do?

My boyfriend and I have been together for exactly 8 months but of course have been friends much longer in May he met my dad and actually got a job with my dad and me. He's a really good kid, he's a few months older than me, is apart of the Canadian military, is really smart and is just a wonderful person. However my dad is the traditional dad with rules and what not. My dad doesn't let me go out with him a lot although I usually only go out with him once or twice a week and the latest i've been out with him is like 10:30pm. Given I am 16, almost 17, have my learners, get great grades, etc. I don't drink like the other kids in my grade and I don't even attend lots of parties because of that. Anyway yesterday my bf finally got angry and ended it with me because of my dad (Nothing to do with me) We were both on the phone crying. I understand though, my dad controls our relationship and its not fair especially to my bf. However today when he was at work and I wasn't he said he missed me :( And we r trying to work things out. However today when my dad came home he said if I ever talked to him again he wouldn't talk to me and he swore on it. I think my dad said that because he saw how much pain I was in yesterday. But out of fairness I wouldn't have been like that in the first place if my dad gave me my space. I don't think this is fair, especially because he's making me choose. Of course I'm gunna talk to my bf...he's my best friend, I can't exactly go 8 months with this guy and then all of a sudden not have him in my life. We go to the same school and work together. So what do I do? Do I have any rights about this? My dad has threatened to kick me out too. Can he do that? By the way I pay for all my clothes, phone bills, shoes, electronics, furniture, and personal items all by myself. My dad just pays for food and the roof above my head...So what do I do. He's making me choose between him and my bestfriend whom I happen to love very much and want to get back together with.